Episode 3: Confessions of an Awkward Natural – Art Class

Going natural was a decision not everyone understood. I had trouble explaining my choice to peers who often saw my hair as untamed, to say the least. One moment, in particular, stands out like a painful brushstroke on a blank canvas. It was 2012, and I had just transferred to a new high school—a predominantly white school where nearly everyone had straight hair. Even the small group of Black girls at the school wore their hair straightened.

At the time, I had recently decided to embrace my natural roots, ditching the flat iron that had been my constant companion. Inspired by the natural hair girls on YouTube growing their curls to seemingly impossible lengths, I decided to take the plunge. My resources were limited, my budget was nearly nonexistent, and my knowledge was... let’s call it “developing.” I rocked a curly fro that showed every ounce of heat damage, but I was proud of it. It was a work in progress, just like me.

My 4th-period art class, however, became a harsh introduction to other people's opinions. My art teacher, who I had initially admired for her worldly background (she had studied art in France and seemed cultured and open-minded), caught me off guard with a question I never expected. One day, in the middle of class, she looked directly at me and asked, “Sharon, do you comb your hair? Like, can you even fit a comb through it?”

I froze.

Her words echoed in my mind, and for a moment, I didn’t know what to say. The room fell silent, and I could feel all eyes on me. I was filled with a mix of embarrassment and confusion. Did she think she was being curious? Playful? All I knew was that it didn’t feel good.

Before I could even respond, two of my friends came to my defense. “Why would you ask her that?” one of them demanded. “That’s so rude!” chimed in the other. Their quick reaction was a lifeline, grounding me in a moment where I felt small and exposed.

Though I was mortified, that incident didn’t deter me from embracing my natural hair. If anything, it sparked something within me—a fire I didn’t fully understand at the time but that would eventually fuel my passion for creating Tikuri Collection.

Now, when I think back on that moment, I see it as part of my journey. My teacher’s question, though ignorant, helped me realize just how much work there was to be done—not just in caring for my hair but in changing the narrative around natural hair altogether.

Dealing with Comments While Transitioning

Transitioning to natural hair can sometimes attract unwanted comments or questions. Here are some tips to help you handle these situations and stay confident in your journey:

1. Stay Grounded in Your Why

   Remember why you decided to go natural. Whether it’s to embrace your natural beauty, improve your hair’s health, or simply try something new, staying connected to your reasons will make you less affected by outside opinions.

   
   

2. Educate When You Can

   Sometimes, questions or comments come from ignorance rather than malice. If you feel comfortable, take the opportunity to explain your decision or educate the person about natural hair. This can help shift their perspective and encourage more understanding.

   
   

3. Protect Your Energy

   Not every comment deserves a response. If someone’s remarks are rude or intentionally hurtful, it’s okay to walk away or change the subject. Protecting your peace is just as important as protecting your hair.

   
   

4. Build a Support System

   Surround yourself with people who uplift you and celebrate your journey. Online communities, friends, or family who appreciate your natural hair can make a big difference when facing negativity.

   
   

5. Find Power in Your Confidence

   The best response to criticism is self-assurance. Embrace your hair, flaws and all, and let your confidence shine. When you love and accept yourself, others are less likely to shake your resolve.

   
   

6. Use Positive Affirmations

   Reinforce your confidence with affirmations like, “I love my natural hair,” “My hair is beautiful just the way it is,” or “This is my journey, and I’m proud of it.” Repeating these to yourself can drown out negativity.

   
   

Let’s Chat!

Have you ever received a comment about your hair that left you speechless? How did you handle it? Or, if you’re currently transitioning, what’s the best advice you’ve received so far?

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